Week 2: Growing

April 16 & 19

  • Ephesians 5:21-33

  • Marriage in the Mundane

  • Covenant marriages are grown and lived out in the mundane.

  • Ephesians 5:21

  • If you want to build your covenant marriage in the mundane moments, it starts with you being built in the power of the Holy Spirit.

  • If you never submit and give yourself over to Jesus, you will never give yourself over to your spouse.

  • Ephesians 5:22-24

  • Submission done well is a beautiful act of trust.

  • Proverbs 21:19

  • Proverbs 31:10-12

  • Wives, make a commitment in the mundane to be a spring of life for your husband.

  • Ephesians 5:25-33

  • “The difference between a boy and a man is a man tells himself no.”

  • Colossians 3:19

  • Husbands, make a commitment in the mundane to wake up each day and ask yourself, what does love require of me today? And do it.

  • “Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.”
    Martin Luther

  • Most marriages don’t fall apart in a moment…they drift apart over years.

  • The "Four Horsemen of Divorce":

  1. Criticism – “You’re the problem.”

  2. Defensiveness – “It’s not my fault.”

  3. Contempt – “I’m better than you."

  4. Stonewalling – “You don’t matter enough for me to stay in this moment.”

  • Making the most of the mundane this week:

  1. Couples: Pray together every morning and every night this week.

  2. Husbands: Do one intentional act of love everyday this week

  3. Wives: Do one intentional act to can respect and honor him every day this week.

  4. Single: Encourage your married friends and take an honest look at your own expectations of marriage.

[d]Group Questions

  1. Read Ephesians 5:21-33 as a group.

  2. We talked about submitting first to Christ and then to our spouse. Where or how do you need to check your heart when it comes to submitting to Christ?

  3. What is an example of "submitting to one another" look like in your marriage?

  4. Moment of honesty, What are some small mundane things that you do which divide your marriage and how can you redeem those to act like Christ?

  5. This week, there were some practical challenges given. One of those is prayer. How is praying for each other daily going and how can the group be praying for your marriage?

Prayer Prompt

  1. Take time to pray over the marriages. Pray for struggles, guidance, anything the group needs.

  2. If anyone is not married, pray for future spouses and for marriages to thrive for the sake of the Gospel.

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